How to accept difficult circumstances

How to accept difficult circumstances

Accepting difficult circumstances can relieve emotional suffering.

“Whatever is happening, whatever is changing, whatever is going or not going according to my plans—I release my hold on all of it. I leave behind who I think I am, who I want to be, what I want the world to be. I come home to the great peace of the present moment.”

~Elizabeth Lesser

I woke up to loud beeping coming from the machines attached to my body.

Nurses were coming in and out of the room to check on me.

John was there. He told me that I’d been in and out of the ICU for eight days during the past two weeks.

He said I’d been put on a ventilator and air evacuated out of La Paz, Baja Mexico, and flown to Sharp Memorial Hospital in San Diego.

As I lay in bed with eight drain tubes coming out of my body —  two chest tubes to drain the fluid out of my lungs, a feeding tube into my nose, a foley catheter in my bladder and four drain tubes coming out of my abdomen — I felt confused and vulnerable.

I felt safe when John was close because he has a calming presence.

He had recently retired after working 30 years as an Emergency Medicine physician.

Nearby a man began to scream loudly.  It wasn’t your typical scream.  It was a blood curdling scream.

I later learned that this Trauma ICU was also where head injured people were being cared for as well.

Overhead on the hospital PA system were frequent calls to “Trauma Team A stat or Trauma Team B stat.”

Yet I felt a sense of peace.

After my fifth surgery, I had a near-death experience.

I didn’t know what this experience was except that I heard a clear, powerful voice that said, “You get to choose how you go through this experience. What will you choose?”

That voice (I later decided this was my spiritual guide) allowed me to rise above my circumstance and choose the high road, which meant that I wouldn’t be a victim of this circumstance.

I decided I would use love and gratitude to heal.

I knew that if I didn’t take the high road, I would suffer because I would argue with the reality that I was in the hospital, I had massive injuries and it would take a long time to recover.

A victim thought would be, “Why did this happen to me?”  Alternatively,  I might blame all my injuries on the driver of our van.

I’d done enough personal growth to understand that my thoughts about my circumstance would give me a result in my life.

I needed to be in a high energetic state to heal. 

In the map of consciousness, David Hawkin’s M.D., PhD, notes that death is at the energy field of zero and enlightenment is 1000 the top of the scale.

People who have a near-death experience the energy field of 600.

The energy field of 540 and up is the energy field of unconditional love. It tends to heal whatever is brought into its presence.

At the time of the accident, I didn’t know much about near-death experiences.

I came home and dedicated myself to recovering and figuring out what I had been through.

The entire time I was in the hospital, I was calm and at peace

I knew that I didn’t want to argue with reality.

If my mind resisted being in the hospital, the result would be to make my experience more difficult than it already was for me.

I accepted the reality of the situation that I was in the hospital for an undetermined amount of time.

I accepted things as they were, not how I wanted them to be.

Each one of us gets to choose how we go through circumstances and situations in our life.

Next time you face a difficult situation, you get to consider making a conscious choice and to choose differently.

When you accept this moment as it is without resistance, you feel a sense of spaciousness inside.

This is when you surrender to reality – what is happening moment to moment.

When you let go of inner resistance, you’ll often find circumstances have changed for the better.

Surrender comes when you stop asking, “Why is this happening to me?”

Even in this most painful and difficult experience of being in the hospital, there was a deeper good underlying this challenging situation.

I saw the good in the worst situation. 

A few examples of the good I experienced, was the miracle of a new ambulance being delivered to a hospital up north that happened to drive by 20 minutes after the accident and offer to drive us back to the nearest hospital.

The outpouring of love during my hospitalizations was a beautiful experience for me.

The love story that blossomed between John and I because I had to let him take care of me because I was unable to care for myself for six months after we arrived home from the hospital.

In every disaster there is a seed of grace.

When you accept the unacceptable, this is the greatest source of grace in this world.

Whatever you accept completely will take you to peace.

Have you experienced a situation that you accepted instead of resisting? 

I’d love to know if this article resonated with you, please let me know in the comments below.

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